Girls With Anxiety Show Their Love Differently: You’re swimming in an ocean, and without notice or warning, you begin slipping under the surface. You kick and kick, slowly losing your breath. You can’t breathe, but you keep kicking. No matter how hard you kick, or how hard you try to scream, no one can hear you or help you. Your lungs are burning from the lack of oxygen; you can’t reach the surface. You keep reaching toward the sunlight; you see the surface, but you can’t get there. You’re stuck 10 feet under. You’re without air; you’re without your breath; you blackout.
That’s anxiety. Anxiety consumes you; anxiety becomes you, and for hours you’re alone. You’re drowning, and no one can save you, no matter how loudly you yell.
As a result of constantly feeling like this, girls with anxiety have their guard up. We handle almost everything with worry, and we are on edge, wondering what will set off our anxiety next, and just like that, we’re back feeling like we’re in that ocean.
Girls with anxiety love differently. But I promise you, we will love you like no one else ever will. We will love you like you are our one and only, you’re our safe space, you’re the person we know we can trust, and our love for you and our appreciation for you will never go unnoticed.
This is how Girls With Anxiety Show Their Love Differently:
1. She Needs To Feel Safe.
Are you someone who is overprotective? Excellent. A woman with anxiety needs to feel secure in the relationship every single time. Even though she can be independent, she still needs someone to take care of her. She needs to know that her loved one cares for her as much as she cares for him.
Because a woman living with anxiety doesn’t want a random love. She wants a partner who will be her safe place when the world gets too heavy for her. And she will be his safety net also, she will always be there for him, believing and supporting him.
2. She Forms Deep Bonds.
She will be always true to her partner because she is true to herself. She is not faking anything. When she feels happy, she glows. When she is sad, she is falling apart. Her partner can always tell what she is feeling because every emotion is shown on her face.
This is why she forms deep bonds with the people in her life. She hasn’t got many friends, but the few ones she has – know her heart and soul. When she allows someone in her life, she does it with her whole heart and she will do anything for them.
3. She Will Love You Like No One Else.
She can be a little too much at times. But, she will love you as no one has ever loved you before. And you can be sure that her love is real. You mean more to her than just a romantic partner. You become her confidant, protector, calmer, and lover.
And she will always make you feel loved and will try anything to make you feel happy and appreciated.
4. Sometimes even if we feel it, we can’t say it aloud.
To say ‘I love you’ is major for us. We only say it if we are 110% comfortable with this person. And even then, it’s a scary and vulnerable moment for us.
5. Sometimes we ignore the topic of the future altogether.
We hate talking about the future because our anxiety can’t handle it. Anxiety makes us worry about what we are doing tomorrow, and we physically and emotionally can’t handle talking about the far-away future. We try to ignore the topic as much as possible.
6. We sometimes come across as rude.
Sometimes we say rude things or completely ignore the person we love most because we want to see if they are going to leave. It’s our way of testing their love, as crazy as it sounds.
7. We pull away.
With anxiety comes a need to be alone and to isolate ourselves. When we are falling in love, this need is more urgent because our anxiety is usually on an all-time high.
8. We fear the worst.
No matter how happy we are in the relationship, our anxiety makes us think it’s a joke. Anxiety makes us worry that this will all end. It tells us that the love isn’t even real or true and this person we love most will leave and never come back.
9. We don’t understand why they love us back.
We truly don’t understand why or how they love us. With anxiety comes a lot of hard times and baggage, and we can’t comprehend why they are sticking by us. This can cause a lot of tension in the relationship because all they ever do is convince you that they want you.
10. First dates are our nightmares.
To even begin dating is a struggle for us. First dates are extremely anxiety-ridden events for us because we come up with thousands of horrible scenarios in our heads before the date even begins.
SHE NEEDS CONSTANT REASSURANCE.
She needs a patient lover. She needs someone who would not get irritated when she asks him 12 times if he will leave her. Her anxiety sometimes gets the best of her and she needs constant reminders that he loves her and that he won’t abandon her.
And when she asks him to repeat himself time and time again, this is not because she doesn’t trust him. She does. But when her anxiety strikes in, the only way to calm down is for her partner to reassure her that he is not leaving anywhere. That he will always be by her side.